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Indigokitty
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« on: March 04, 2010, 09:16:53 PM »

My birthday was this past Monday, March1st. I finally got to pick up my chip tonight. My car broke, AGAIN, but I've been 'waiting' for it to happen. The alternator has been ready to go for a couple of months now.

I called a friend to get a ride tonight. It was the biggest meeting I've ever been to, except of course the ones at conventions. There were about 80 people there. There were a lot of new people there too. It was at the club where I got sober 13 years ago. I haven't been there in very long time. Things look a lot different. When I sat down, I looked up in front of me to see the paintings of Bill and Bob I did in my second year of sobriety for an AA auction. I was shocked that they sold for an obscene amount of money and were then donated to the club.

So there they were in front of me. I haven't seen them in a very long time. Seeing them made me realize how far I've come since then. When I painted them, I signed them with my first initial only. One of the reasons was that I'd already had so many last names. The other was that I thought I was being humble by being 'anonymous'. But of course, everyone knew I was the one who painted them.

Those pictures turned out to be a huge lesson in true humility for me. Every time someone told me how great they were, I always pointed out everything that was wrong with them. I could only see the faults in them. Someone from World Services came down and visited the club one year. He had actually known Bill and Bob. He said that they were the best paintings of them he had ever seen.

That was really hard for me to swallow. I never thought that they were that good. That was when I learned to just accept that God gave me a gift, that I'm very good at it and that other people appreciate and enjoy the results of my gifts.

Seeing those pictures tonight made me realize how much better I feel about myself as a person, how far I've come and how much I've come to embrace and love myself. I wish now that I had signed them.

So at the end of the meeting, they started recognizing increments of sobriety. They started at 1 month and then worked their way up to 9 years and then stopped! I had to get their attention to tell them they stopped too soon! I told them I have 13 years of sobriety and everyone clapped and whistled for a long time! It felt really wonderful. I remember early on in sobriety being so amazed when I some picked up a chip for so many years of sobriety. Tonight, I got to be that person, the example of someone who has long term sobriety. I got to be the person who shows by example that a person really can get and stay sober and have a great life. I feel so good tonight!

3 people asked me to sponsor them tonight. The guy who took me to a meeting tonight happens to be a professor in my department. He said that I don't have time to sponsor people. But that's really up to my higher power. If these women  get sober and ask me to help them, it is because it was meant to be. I thanked them for asking me because they are giving me a better gift in sobriety than I could ever give them. I am honored that another person would think so much of my sobriety as to ask me to help them, to pass on what I've learned.

I'm seriously considering going back up there with a sharpie marker to sign the glass of the frame my paintings are in! Smiley
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« Reply #1 on: March 05, 2010, 12:39:42 AM »

Congrats on the years. Congrats on your growth. And let the paintings be. They will always be a reminder of the milestones you have passed on your journey. Cheesy

Good luck with your classes.
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« Reply #2 on: March 05, 2010, 04:54:59 PM »

I-kitty,
CONGRATS!!! awesome, awesome, awesome!!!
LOL,
Peterwolfe
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« Reply #3 on: March 05, 2010, 10:44:58 PM »

Indigo
You and Lyon have become probably my two closest friends on the board. I find it somewhat Ironic that when I first got on here Lyon had just picked up 13 years (WOW time flies huh Lyon)
So congratulations look forward to having you on here for many more.   
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« Reply #4 on: March 11, 2010, 10:09:54 AM »

So, so happy for you--what a night! Your posts have a tendancy to ruin my mascara, lady--

Hugs,
Haley
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Indigokitty
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« Reply #5 on: March 11, 2010, 06:50:47 PM »

Awe thanks Haley!
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« Reply #6 on: March 15, 2010, 07:54:33 AM »

Blessings and peace,

You know, whether or not you end up being a sponsor right now, you have still shared your experience, strength and hope by showing up and sharing your birthday. Some of the best work we do, we actually get done effortlessly and in passing.

Thank you for sharing your birthday. I have no doubt that you have given someone hope just through that simple act.

Blessings of the day to you,

MW
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« Reply #7 on: March 15, 2010, 08:36:31 AM »

In my years of sobriety, I haven't sponsored a lot of people. But for me, it's okay. I have felt in the past that maybe I didn't have much to offer. I don't think that any more because of the things the unexpected gifts I've gotten over the years.

Most often, people tell me after a meeting how much something I shared has helped them. Other times, people tell me years later that something I said helped in some fundamental way that has been instrumental in their sobriety. Most of the time, it was something I don't even remember saying. For me, this is a sign that my higher power/s are using me as a means to help other people. It means me that I'm allowing my will to be in alignment with that a the higher purpose.

I've also been told that I'm a very deep and intensely intellectual person. They tell me when we come in, we've f()cked up our brains too much too understand the kinds of things I say. I think that's why it's usually people with long term sobriety that understand what I'm saying.

When asked my opinion about something, I'm pretty blunt about my answer and experience. There's one lady who like me, has bipolar disorder. She's one of those that constantly quit taking their medications. She's averages trips to the hospital about once a year because she does this.

Several years ago, she had asked for help in dealing with her disorder. She eventually quit taking her meds again. Some of her friends that always come to her rescue threatened to bring her to me during one of her episodes. She was afraid to talk to me because she knew I would tell her she had done it to herself by quitting her meds and that I wouldn't enable her.

It seems to me and it's been the observation of many of the people in the program who's sobriety I really respect, that most people don't really want to hear the truth.

I tell the truth as I see it because it was done for me. No one ever helped by not telling me the truth about something  I'm doing. I don't believe I can truly grow in sobriety if I'm not willing to hear the truth. As much as it stings sometimes to hear the truth, I'm always grateful to the person who tells me what I really need to hear. Someone here pointed out something like that out to me when I had a huge resentment I was fostering against Christians.

They gave me a good ass kicking for it. I'm still grateful for it because it helped so much to let go of my resentment and restore my serenity.

Also, I don't care if it comes from someone with many less years of sobriety. If it's the truth, I need to hear, no matter what the source is! When it does come from that kind of source it makes me grateful and it actually gives me joy that someone is actually 'getting' the program! May sound weird, but it's what works for me and I think it's one of the many gifts of the program!

Thanks for your comment!
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« Reply #8 on: March 15, 2010, 04:22:43 PM »

Happy Birthday Indigo..and hey..us Bipolar Recovering Alcoholics need to stick together!!!! Smiley
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